tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377798491811359486.post4760160078373789862..comments2024-01-14T04:31:49.115-05:00Comments on Reflections of Rodney: Thoughts On... Being Alone (Old Essay)Rodneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17860620016177457657noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377798491811359486.post-74606103286977682312010-01-26T16:34:39.160-05:002010-01-26T16:34:39.160-05:00Well, I know you better. I know and you know that ...Well, I know you better. I know and you know that you're not resigned to your fate.<br /><br />But to a stranger, I think it comes across as such, yes. Maybe I'm wrong.David Batistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447011239238933425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377798491811359486.post-66413541782643472152010-01-26T15:37:34.987-05:002010-01-26T15:37:34.987-05:00This comes across as 'resigned to my fate'...This comes across as 'resigned to my fate'? Really? Not what I was going for at all. It started as an answer to friends question about why I'm not worried about ending up alone in life, and just expanded. <br /><br />Thanks for the compliment on the writing, from you I take that as high praise!Rodneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17860620016177457657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2377798491811359486.post-10497861721224733712010-01-26T12:04:41.063-05:002010-01-26T12:04:41.063-05:00The only real question to be answered regarding be...The only real question to be answered regarding being alone is: are you truly happy?<br /><br />If the answer is yes, then congrats on being a bachelor for life.<br /><br />But if for any reason you are BS'ing yourself and you're really deep down in depression . . . then being alone is not your natural state.<br /><br />I agree that people tend to meddle in the affairs of friends or family that are single. They automatically assume that person is unhappy. It's hard not to be cynical when faced with such an onslaught of well-wishers and meddlesome do-gooders trying to set things right in your own life.<br /><br />For me, I've never had to look at the world in such a dichotomy of happy-alone vs sad-alone. All I know is that I saw someone I liked and wanted to get to know better, we clicked, and the rest is history. I neither think about nor care about whether this means I *need* to always be in a relationship. I'm happy with my life, and that's all that matters.<br /><br />That all being said, you're never going to convince everbody that you, Rodney, are truly happy alone. You sound rather more resigned to your fate than happy. Which shouldn't be, of course.<br /><br />Still, you seem well grounded and "normal" about your approach to this topic. Your essay isn't whiny or self-pitying, which speaks to your intelligence. Excellently written, my friend!David Batistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447011239238933425noreply@blogger.com